Wednesday, December 12, 2012

From Bobby Beausoleil's Facebook Page

Hello everyone,

This is proof positive that is it possible to have a heart heavy with sadness and one that is filled with joy inside of a single breath. On October 19th my beloved Barbara Ellen, wife and partner of 31 years, very suddenly and unexpectedly passed from this world.

A shocking event, to say the least. I’m still reeling. One day she was happily planting bulbs in the her garden for flowers that will bloom in the spring, and the following morning her lifeless body was found lying on the floor next to her bed.

In a curious example of synchronicity not uncharacteristic in our relationship, I fell out of my bunk onto the floor of my cell, the only time ever in my life that this has happened, at what was very possibly the moment of her passing. The cause of physical death was subsequently determined to be a cerebral hemorrhage. It was quick, no prolonged suffering, just the sort of way Barbara would have preferred to go when her time came (may we all be so lucky). No muss, no fuss, no lingering illness, no significant debts to be a burden to her family. Just gone. It’s as though she has been stolen from us, as a dear mutual friend aptly put it.

I miss her physical presence in my life, of course, every time something happens that I want to share with her, at least a dozen times a day, and I have to remind myself again that she is no longer here among us. We had a 31-year conversation, probing heart and mind, exploring our humanness while aspiring to the higher levels of wisdom. I will miss that conversation like I will miss her gaze, her touch, her uninhibited laughter, her embrace, her kiss, and even those human foibles and faults that sometimes annoyed and frustrated me. There was never anything about her that could realistically stand in the way of my love for her.

Ours was a relationship founded on sacred ground, and therefore not subject to threat from something as wholly natural, commonplace, and ultimately trivial as death. We only borrow these bodies to play in this world for a time. This is why our relationship held together all these years despite some foolish lapses of dignity and the hardship of my incarceration. But Barbara was so sturdy, I always assumed I would be the one to go first. I’ve been caught off guard, and now I grapple with unaccustomed depths of emotion, mourning the loss of her, while knowing full well that she is not the least bit lost to herself.

Some of you had the good fortune to know Barbara personally; others of you may have known her at some distance, or only about her. In any case, I would like to offer the following words of rememberance, written by Barbara’s son John only days after passing:

“Barbara was, and always will be, a shining example of a how a person can live in peace, harmony and freedom. She gave more than she took, she loved more than she feared, and she nurtured everything and everybody around her. We will remember Barbara as a woman of strength, courage, compassion and wisdom-a true Mother Goddess incarnate, treading softly yet powerfully upon this Earth”.

So, yes, there are some waves of sadness lingering in the spaces where Barbara once lived, since her passing. No one needs to worry that they may draw me into some morose stupor, however. Barbara would have little patience for that sort of thing. Anyway, she would not have left when she did if she had not been sure that I would remain a strength to her children and grandchildren, and I won’t let her down in that regard. She would not have any of us feel sorry for her, or for ourselves. Any why should we? Barbara lived on her own terms and died exactly as she would have wanted to. I salute her for that, and celebrate the wealth of gifts she brought to the world.

In peace,
Bobby


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13 comments:

Sun King said...

Nice letter and I'm sure Bobby must be devastated & heartbroken over the loss.

At least he still has the kids & grandchildren and feels a responsibility towards them.

MissTone said...

How does he have access to Facebook?

MissTone said...

"Barbara lived on her own terms and died exactly as she would have wanted to.".

Bobby, Barbara looked like a beautiful soul. But I'm sure all of the victims that unexpectedly died at the hands of you and Manson and his gang would have appreciated the same opportunity to die exactly as they would have wanted.

eviliz said...

In a curious example of synchronicity not uncharacteristic in our relationship, I fell out of my bunk onto the floor of my cell, the only time ever in my life that this has happened, at what was very possibly the moment of her passing. The cause of physical death was subsequently determined to be a cerebral hemorrhage. It was quick, no prolonged suffering, just the sort of way Barbara would have preferred to go when her time came (may we all be so lucky). No muss, no fuss, no lingering illness, no significant debts to be a burden to her family. Just gone. It’s as though she has been stolen from us, as a dear mutual friend aptly put it.


I am sure Gary was wishing he could of gone quick with no suffering.

eviliz said...

MissTone said...
How does he have access to Facebook?

Hi Miss Tone, I miss our late night e-mailings, hit me up!
Barbara and friends tend to Bobby's FB.

LoLo said...

@MissTone I'm sure he sent the letter to her kids or a friend & they posted it for him.

MissTone said...

@Eviliz...I've actually been sleeping like a normal person lately! Until the next crisis :). Happy Holidays!

MissTone said...

I find his letter highly offensive considering the absolute prolonged torture of Gary directly inflicted by Bobby, his friend. 40+ years doesn't erase what Gary went through. How would Bobby feel if she had suffered as badly?

daniel said...

yeah. it can't be erased. that doesn't mean he doesn't have loved ones. the fascination is still understood but he's a monster if he says nothing and a monster if he says anything.

wengr said...

This guy is so full of himself that it's actually quite impressive.

Lauren Webster said...

How ironic that someone tells someone who caused a messy death that they don't want a messy death.

Heidi Snell said...

Maybe it is just my upbringing, or maybe my hatred of facebook, or a combination of the two but why would someone put such personal and deep, not to mention long winded stuff on facebook? I find this odd.

daniel said...

why does anyone put anything on facebook? human contact.